Tuesday, 29 March 2011

Value of Failing

Why we must have this rain? Why is it that we must fail? I would rather put it in another way - Why must we have these failing experiences? In order to illustrate this, it would be better for me to give a couple of examples.
Have you ever seen a diamond in its raw state? I am very sure if today we had a couple of these uncut diamonds in front of us, many of us would not be able to recognise them. They just look like ordinary rough stones. Now how is it that this rough stone can be made to be that lovely diamond that every woman loves? By polishing! Yes, the rough diamond is polished and rubbed with a lot of friction! It undergoes a tremendous amount of friction before it finally becomes diamond that you see in the showcase. It must undergo all that polishing for that 'diamond' to come out. It's the same with all of us. We need to be polished, going through hard times, suffering times, before the greatness in us is revealed.
If we look out into the sky at night, we will realise that the DARKER the sky, the BRIGHTER are the stars! Why is it that we can't see the stars in the day time? Not that they are not there. It's because there's too much sunshine! We need darkness to bring out the stars!
How is perfume derived from flowers? The flowers have to be crushed first before we can actually get the perfume from it. You see, it is this process of crushing, these failing experiences that will bring out the best in us.
At this point, I would like to share an interesting finding with all of you. Why does a pilot have to go through years of training when once a plane is on auto-pilot? He practically doesn't need to do anything? The answer was given by the Chairman of Boeing Inc. The pilot spent years in their training to learn about what to do WHEN THINGS GO WRONG!
There you are. Life is not about running away from mistakes or giving up when we fail. It is about learning how to handle them to finally reach our goals.
Some people when they fail they stay in it. Some people when they fail they learn from it and they keep going.

*Remember, in order to have the rainbow you must have the rain. There is no other way. Hard times should make you BETTER and not BITTER. You can only be BETTER if you learn from it.
*We often discover what we will do, by finding out we will not do. And probably he/she who never made a mistake never made a discovery.



We have read of many successful men/women committing suicide after a major failure. Young people who dared to try but failed have often slipped into despair and oblivion. It is not that these peolple were unable to handle the failure but the stigma that failure carried was too heavy and when society pulled the 'planks' from underneath them, they had no other choice but to 'sinks'! We have also heard of the saying - 'Give me 10 bad losers and I'll Give you back 10 good winners'.
Sometime ago I had the good or bad fortune of watching a game of competitive tennis. I had never seen a worse bad loser. The world seems to have a lot of bad losers like this person and they seem to be able to get away with all that vulgarity they hurled about. It seems that when you curse and swear when you lose then you have the potential to be a good winner. I think the best they become is a bad winner not a good winner, and definitely not a great winner. I believe the great winner is yet to come - one who has understood what failing really is! As the saying goes - ' Give me 10 losers who understand what losing means and I'll give you 10 great winners!'
Maybe it's the misconception of what 'success' is all about.
Many people tend to associate achievement with success and non-achievement with failure.
If you have obtained a lump of gold, you are success. If not you are failure.
If you obtain a paper degree, you are success. If not you are failure.
If you close the deal, you are success. If you don't you are failure.
If you get a job, you are success. If not you are failure.
If you manage to get a girl/boy, you are success. If not you are failure.
In our journey through life, we have always thought of sunshine as good -  and equated it with success, and rain as bad associated with failure. Most of us don't like the rain. We would prefer the sunshine. We would prefer the good times rather than the bad.
But are good times really that nice? Or the bad times really that bad?
Are easy times really that good? Are hard times to be dreaded?
What would happen if we were exposed to sunshine everyday? We would get sunburnt or even suffer from skin cancer! Now what happens if we stay in the rain everyday? We will get pneumonia and may even die of cold. It looks like both sides don't seem to be the answer. We do know however that both sides do give some benefits. As a wise man once said, 'Summer is delicious, rain is refreshing, wind is bracing, snow is exhilarating, there is no such thing as a bad weather, only different kinds of good weather.'
' Something good always comes from something bad'.

Keep thinking guys we learn from our failures not from our successes!

*Sorry if wrong grammar or spelling

Love is Evil

When you look at him/her :
Love at the first sight/crushed
When you talk to him/her :
You’ll start to liked him/her
When you start to text him/her :
You’ll be delightful
When you start talking on the phone with him/her almost every night :
You’ll start to love him/her
When you start to hang out together :
Your heart will racing
When you start to care about him/her :
You will ask him/her to be your special one
When they are yours :
You’ll start to break their heart
When they are crying and grieving over you :
You’ll left them
When they hates you :
You’ll be asking their forgiveness
When they leaves you :
You’ll know

Monday, 28 March 2011

Stuck like a Glue

Damn! I need to finish up my assignment and hand in it tomorrow! What a terrible night I ever had tonight?! Huhu-ing :(

 See my messy table! Screw up assignments :/
Huhu-ing :/

A song for mama

You taught me everything
And everything you've given me
I always keep it inside
You're the driving force in my life, yeah
There isn't anything
Or anyone that I can be
And it just wouldn't feel right
If I didn't have you by my side
You were there for me to love and care for me
When skies were grey
Whenever I was down
You were always there to comfort me
And no one else can be what you have been to me
You will always be you always will be the girl
In my life for all times

Mama, mama you know I love you
Oh you know I love you
Mama, mama you're the queen of my heart
Your love is like
Tears from the stars
Mama, I just want you to know
Lovin' you is like food to my soul
Yes it is

You're always down for me
Have always been around for me even when I was bad
You showed me right from my wrong
Yes you did
And you took up for me
When everyone was downin' me
You always did understand
You gave me strength to go on
There was so many times
Looking back when I was so afraid
And then you come to me
And say to me I can face anything
And no one else can do
What you have done for me
You'll always be
You will always be the girl in my life

Never gonna go a day without you
Fills me up just thinking of you
I'll never go a day without my mama

Haha I make this using paint :D

Advice for ladies out there

1. A man won't let go if he really loves you.

Do not hold on to someone who has let go of you. He does not love you and does not value having you. Believe me, he will not let go if he really loves you. There is another reason he is not willing to tell. 

2. Do not look for reasons why he ended the relationship. 

There is only one reason why he ended your relationship. He just does not love you. Do not waste your time thinking of reasons or what you should have done. Move on and be open to a man who will truly love you. 

3. Do not get hang up on your past. 

Do not nag or distrust your current boyfriend just because your ex hurt you. Do not treat him or the relationship the same way. Do not compare. He will not react the same way as your ex. Do not be worried that your simple mistakes will cause him to look for another girl. What happened with your ex was not your fault. It was not because you didn't guard him enough or you didn't make him happy 

4. Do not look into images. 

How many times have you met a girl who didn't have the best image in school or at the office, but you get to know the girl and found out she was actually extremely nice? Do not rely on images. Oftentimes, it is far from reality. Do not fear men just because your "supposedly" perfect ex-boyfriend mistreated you. 

5. Always have your own set of rules. 

Set your limits on how far you'd go for a guy. It's perfectly ok to give and do everything as long as it's worth it. And it's worth it if the guy is treating you right. 

6. Do not be scared to lose him. 

Don't be scared that he'll break up with you. Once you are afraid of losing him, you easily can be taken advantage. Be strong and if something is unacceptable, do not accept it and speak up. 

7. Avoid calling your guy. 

It's a guy thing. The relationship will definitely be better if it's the guy who's calling, not the girl. He will get tired of you if you keep on calling. He will lose interest and challenge. More so, he will get annoyed. But it's a girl thing also that your fingers get too itchy until you dial his number. But avoid as much as possible. Call only if really needed (like checking if your suspicions are reasonable). 

8. There is a guy who will value you. 

There is a guy out there who can make you feel valued, appreciated, and loved. And I mean, not just during your first few weeks together. So don't lose hope. Don't settle for a lesbian if you are not attracted to women. There is a man out there who can love you like a girl can 

Also, do not believe him when he says it's just the way he really is. He's not the sweet or expressive-type. Remember during your first few weeks together? Where has that sweet guy gone? He simply is not that into you anymore. 

9. Always be the only one, no matter what. 

Do not ever fall for a guy who has another girl, be it his wife, girlfriend, or any girl that he says he just can't get rid of for whatever reason. If you truly believe that he loves you and for some reason, he can't leave or let go of another girl, then you are no different from any ordinary mistress. 

10. He must respect you. 

No matter how long the relationship has been, he should always show respect towards you. 

11. If he fooled you, end it. 

Philandering once is enough. You can never trust nor respect the person again. 

12. Never start a relationship the wrong way. 

Do not steal another girl's man, for whatever reason. Nor should you enter a relationship for the wrong reasons (loneliness, on the rebound, getting back at your ex, man-dependency, etc.) it is bound not to last. You will only end up wasting more years of your life. 

13. Do not force yourself into a relationship. 

Do not get into a relationship just because your friends are getting impatient with your dating escapades and the one hasn't come yet. Do not choose who to say yes to based on superficial things like money, looks, cars, etc.. If you are even thinking of these things, you have not fallen in love yet. 

14. Do not settle. 

If you are not happy anymore with your relationship, break up instantly. He will not stay with you forever no matter how upright he might seem to be. Eventually, he will also want love and happiness in his life. 

15. A relationship has to have love. 

Love is the only thing that will push you to give your efforts into making the relationship work. And believe me, keeping a relationship requires genuine efforts of both parties. 

16. Don't be afraid to be single. 

It's fun to be single, try it. You can go out whenever and wherever you want. You are free. You can date whomever you want and you get to go out for free! Do not get a boyfriend just for the sake of having one. Do  not settle. 

17. Be a good girl. 

Be a good girl to attract a good guy. Enter the relationship with sincere intentions. Take the guy and the relationship seriously with the plan of spending the rest of your life with that person (of course, this is after you had your bit of fun in your younger years). If you compare your flings from your real relationships, you will know that the latter makes you happier and more fulfilled. 

18. Love without limits. 

Whether you loved and gave everything or loved but held out for some things, if the relationship ends, you still get hurt. But if you gave your everything, you were happy and you could say that it was worth it. If you didn't give your all, you get hurt for nothing. 

19. You will get over him. 

Love is over-stated. Love eventually ends and you are free to love another. 

20. Be the one. 

Act like you are the one. Don't be a nagger. Don't hinder his gimmicks. Don't give in to him too easily. Make him treat you as important. Don't be easy. Don't be like every other girl he had in his life.

Friday, 25 March 2011

This is my Story

Names Nazratul. I'm a teenage sponge. I praise music, literature, and art. I'm normal and insane all at the same time. Born in malaysia sushine. Travelling is the one things I enjoy very much, though Im proud to call malaysia my home. Taking up Engineering of Electrical and Electronics in Politeknik of Johor Bahru, Malaysia. I enjoy drawing, reading, painting, taking pictures, singing, dancing and food tripping. And for sure this is my blog, my story and part of my life that I have been through. Lets get inspire not to impress :)

Uh-ha my retarded face :P